Someone
asked me these questions on Quora,and here are my answers.
1.Is
it true that praying to Lord Hanuman or chanting the Hanuman Chalisa every day
will not get you the person you love? Till what extent is this true and why?
Because it always happens that all that I ask for comes true except my wishes
related to love or relationships.
So
many people have already given wonderful answers and their experiences that I
feel that, I don’t need to answer this. However, I will try to put some of my
thoughts about this question i,e without repeating what others already
said.There are different ways of looking at this question,
Firstly,
Lord Hanuman is the personification of servitor-ship - Dasyam to Lord Rama.
Asta Siddhis, the eight super natural powers and Nava Nidhis - nine of the
greatest treasures are given to him by Mother Sita Devi and yet, he choose to
remain a humble servant of Lord Rama. Thus, he has power to do anything and fulfil
any desires of people who worship him. But, it may be inappropriate to ask him
for desires like this. For example, once a person went to a Sanyasi / Saint and
asked his advice or blessing to make some woman to surrender to him. The saint
said, if I had known this - why I would become a Sanyasi. I would have become a
family man.
Secondly,
the parent knows what is good for their child. If the child goes to their
father and asks him for a Cigarette the father immediately slaps or try to
discipline the child. Or, if the child asks for something unreasonable, like
1000 rupees for buying chocolates, the father would not give him.
It
is said that marriages are made in heaven. May be true or not, but sometimes it
looks like that. Sometimes, we don’t understand or can’t see the full picture.
Please,
refer to the below blog post,
Also,
it is said that to get results, firstly the endeavour or effort should be there.
From your side, what efforts or actions you are taking to make the other person
pleased, happy with you. Mere sentiment or silent adoration will not work. Then,
once you do your part, the mercy from Lord Hanuman flows.
So
many other things can be said, but in short keep chanting Hanuman Chalisa,
worship Lord Rama of whom Hanuman is always serving and worshiping and at a
suitable time, your sincere desires will fulfilled. As per my article above,
have faith in God’s plan for you.
2. If
you chant for Hanuman will it help you get over unrequited love, possibly even
helping you get the courage and will to lead a celibate life?
Dear
Chan,This an intresting question.There are so many dimensions to this question.
Firstly, it is said that in pure or true love, one does not expect anything in
return, including someone not reciprocating your feelings. It depends on the
individual karma. For example, one of my friend during college days was in love
(so called) with at least 5 girls. Each time, he would gather some courage to
propose or convey his feelings, he would hear the news that, the girl who he
was after was engaged to someone else. Today, my friend is happily married (arranged
marriage) and leading a fulfilled life with wife, children etc. It is said
that, in this world there is no true love. The closest one can see is that of a
Mother and child. A mother goes through so much trouble to conceive a child,
after that so many sleepless nights, looking after the baby, feeding him,
taking care when the baby is sick etc. She does all this not because of some
expectation that the child will grow up and do something for her, but out of
pure love.
Coming
back to your question of unrequited love - look at the situation from a
different perspective. Maybe god has a different plan for you. And, yes Praying
Hanuman will give you pure love for Hanuman, Ram and which in turn will give
you strength to get over any obstacles in life. This too shall pass…
(http://ausram.blogspot.com.au/2015/01/this-too-shall-pass.html)
Now
coming to the courage and will to lead a celibate life. Hanumanji is a pure
devotee and servant of Lord Ram, he can give you the courage to lead a celibate
life. But, you have to be true to yourself and make a wise decision. The world
is full of temptations and do you think, you will be and want to lead a
celibate life, because someone did not reciprocate your life?
There
is a nice pastime from Srimad Bhagavatham, where Gajendra the king of elephants
was losing his strength and fight over a crocodile that caught him in the
water. Why, because elephant is a land animal and for the crocodile water is
the natural habitat and he is naturally stronger in water than the land animal
elephant.
"That one has
been found to be very weak in one place does not mean that he should stop
fighting the crocodile of maya. One should take shelter of the lotus feet of
Krishna, as we shall see Gajendra do, and at the same time one can be a gṛhastha if he is
satisfied with sexual indulgence. There is no need to give up the fight. Sri
Caitanya Mahaprabhu therefore recommended, sthane sthitah sruti-gatam
tanu-van-manobhih. One may stay in whichever asrama is suitable for him; it is
not essential that one take sannyasa. If one is sexually agitated, he can enter
the gṛhastha-asrama. But
one must continue fighting. For one who is not in a transcendental position, to
take sannyasa artificially is not a very great credit. If sannyasa is not
suitable, one may enter the gṛhastha-asrama
and fight maya with great strength. But one should not give up the fighting and
go away" - Purport by Srila Prabhupada.
